What makes people fickle

Are you happy with your life? Is this the life you always wanted to live? Do you wake up with a smile on your face each day or do you get nightmares? Do you feel satisfied with your financial position?

Are you happy with your social life? If you hate the fact that you can hardly pay your bills then you certainly want to be rich. If you hate the fact that you are shy then you want to build self confidence.

I am not saying that life is rosy; that everything you ever wanted will come from the first attempt or that all your problems can end in a month or two. But what I am sure of is that if you fought hard and brave enough for what you want you will get it in the end. Why do the majority of people have a low self esteem?

While no single answer can be given to that question still I can confidently say that there is one factor that is responsible for the low self esteem of a very large percentage of people, which is, putting a high weight to the opinion of others. Some people do their best to please all the people they meet and then they monitor their reactions to know whether they managed to please them or not.

If others laughed or acknowledged them then they feel great else they feel really bad and worthless!! Those people are the ones who usually feel worthless as soon as a person rejects them even if they have lots of other loving friends.

And since no one will be able to escape rejection those people usually feel unloved and rejected all the time. Since they never have control of the way others perceive them their self esteem usually goes up and down in an unpredictable manner. This means that by assuming that you are not worthy you will always find clues that prove that people dislike you and your self esteem will be very low. The only way to have a high self esteem is to assume that you are worthy, likable, desirable and important before you even encounter people.

Once you encounter them you will find yourself only collecting the data that proves that you are worthy. The majority of people prefer to escape instead of setting goals and fighting for them.

Most people will try to come up with excuses that can help them feel good about themselves and escape from guilt. If everything in your life is perfect and if you are really happy then you might be right about not having any goals but if you are like most people then know that the problem is in understanding your real needs and not in your lack of interest in goal setting.

How to find my goals in my life? I need to set goals for my life I need to find my life purpose. These phrases sound familiar right? In fact the question how to find my goals in life is a very popular question that many people ask. Many people do the mistake of trying to set goals just to have something to go after and not because they really want to achieve something in life. A person might start to pursue a certain goal just because he saw his friends doing it but upon discovering that this is not what he wants in life the guy loses motivation.

Unhealthy Ties Ambivalent relationships may do more than dishearten. In a study published in Holt-Lunstad and Uchino asked male and female volunteers to wear blood pressure monitors for three days. Every time a subject had a social interaction lasting more than five minutes, he or she would describe it in a diary and rate the quality of that relationship.

Not surprisingly, blood pressure readings were typically higher when individuals encountered ambivalent friends than when they saw supportive friends. But intriguingly, blood pressure was also more elevated in the presence of ambivalent friends than it was with people the subjects disliked but could not avoid such as classmates or co-workers. You expect very little from someone you loathe, Holt-Lunstad surmises, whereas ambivalent friends, unpredictable as they are, often raise your hopes only to dash them.

And that disappointment, or fear of it, can negatively affect your health. Other research suggests that ambivalent friends can lower resistance to stress. In Holt-Lunstad and Uchino reported asking individuals aged 30 to 70 to rate important members of their social networks according to how helpful or upsetting they were.

Then the volunteers completed two stressful exercises: a mental arithmetic task and a speech defending themselves against a false accusation. The more ambivalent friends a person had, the higher his or her heart rate and blood pressure were, in general, during these activities. The result suggests that supportive relationships buffer the body against stress but that ambivalent friends have the opposite effect. Consistent with that conclusion, the individuals with a greater number of ambivalent friends were more likely to suffer from depression.

If such friends make us unhappy, why do we keep them? Unfortunately, the population of fickle people is growing. This is partly due to social media and online dating, to name a few. People are becoming commoditised, objects that can easily be replaced. Online dating especially, gives a person the impression that there are loads of eligible people for us and unwittingly encourages us to become more fickle and picky. We have more choice than ever when it comes to most things, from the people we date to the food and clother we buy.

The more choice we have the more we may feel shortchanged with what we have. Empty promises are a sure sign of a fickle person. They have the gift of the gab and will promise you everything but will deliver nothing. Why are some people fickle Why are some people so fickle?

In this article i will explain why are some people so fickle. This is why some people are so fickle Below are the possible reasons that could make some people so fickle: 1 They don't know what they want in life People who don't know what they want in life become tempted to take a decision whenever someone stimulates them.

A friend of mine was about to join a business venture with me and then she changed her mind as soon as she talked to another friend. When she met me again she decided to join again and later on she met a third friend who made her change her mind.

This is a perfect example of a fickle person who acts this way because of not knowing what she wants in life. When you have a high self esteem you will be able to keep going in the direction you believe in even if people were putting you down or making fun of you. For example a person who lacks self esteem might become fickle about wearing a certain shirt after someone tells him that it doesn't look good on him.

Not all fickle people lack self esteem but certainly most of them do see Ways to raise self esteem 3 Followers are fickle: Some people are total followers, they don't know how to take decisions for themselves, they don't have personal opinions about anything, they follow others without thinking and that's why they are fickle.

Those people change their minds whenever someone who sounds authoritative tells them that they are going in the wrong direction. The follower personality is the result of a combination of low self esteem, extreme fear of failure and an intense desire for approval 4 Unrealistic expectations: Some people are fickle because they have unrealistic expectations.